I am a 30 survivor of cancer, have given motivational talks to encourage new CA patients. Am attractive and well dressed. Two and half years ago I lost my husband of 30 yrs to cancer. He married me during my cancer battle! Four months ago I started dating and OMG the guys are out there and but when they get overly amorous and I tell them ( there were two men) I have an ileostomy but we can fall in love and be in love and it will not be in the way. Both times the nice guy I was seeing disappeared! Broke my heart. The normal bodied man is uncomfortable with an ostomate woman.